I hate it when I go out to the bar and see groups of guys who probably went out to meet chicks, and groups of girls who probably went out to meet guys, but the groups never talk. It’s painful to watch. A lot of these guys seem to confuse being present with actually participating, and that’s where the whole thing falls apart before it even starts. The girls placed themselves in proximity to the men because they wanted to be talked to. You, as the man, need to make the next move.

Sometimes these men will come up with excuses. Those girls weren’t cute enough. Bullshit. They looked like bitches. Maybe. My nipples hurt. Obviously. But the worst excuse is, “this place is a sausage fest”. People love blaming the room when the real problem is that they’re sitting on their hands and waiting for permission. Even in a sausage fest, many girls are not talking to any guys, because the guys are all making excuses.

If you went with the intention of meeting girls, don’t let a bad ratio, i.e. your lack of courage, keep you from making an effort. Forget about every bad rejection you ever endured. That kind of fear only keeps you stuck in the same place while everybody else who actually moves gets the results. Approach the girl! The next time you go out to pick up chicks, don’t make excuses.

In a retail store: “You know these are some very high quality [whatever it is you're looking at].” In a cafe: “Can you watch my stuff for a sec?” In a bar: “Hey, you guys look interesting, what’s up?” These lines work because they break the ice without turning you into a nervous little robot. You need a strong frame to do this, but as long as your frame is good, you will always get a good response.